Thursday, April 6, 2006

kids and I am going to Indy

             

This was a quick week and I am grateful.  Liz made it home safely from Disney she was slightly crabby on Monday, but she did go to school.  She's a trooper.  She has a meeting for a job tomorrow night at the park district.  I think she will do fine, I told her for this type of job her acting abilities will do her well, because this type of job is all about personality. 

This year she is not acting she is doing stage crew, which she prefers.  Plus the Drama director asked her to head it up next year.  My child is much more outgoing then I was in high school.  I admire her, I wasted a lot of time worrying about what other people thought of me.  She seems to have a good head on her shoulders and is very outspoken.  I admire that.

I'd like to think that most parents would like their children to go farther, have more benefits and have an easier time than they had.  But I believe obstacles create strength.  I just hate to see my kids suffer, it's so difficult.  Letting go isn't easy.  My youngest stepson, who lived with us for a year, at that time he got mad at me because I had a problem with him having his 15 year old girlfriend here alone, when he was 18, plus she is a cops daughter.  He constantly caused strife, pushed his limits, but was actually passing school!  He went back to his mother, came 1 semester away from graduating high school. And flunked out.  He's been gone for over a year and still is doing nothing but waste time.  He got arrested last Friday and got to spend the weekend in jail.  He didn't call us, because I've rescued him enough, tried hard to guide him since he was 9 years old.  Now at 19 he has no purpose in life except to think big thoughts, create big schemes and do nothing but hang out and drink.  Very sad.  The kid has so much going for him too.  He just won't take an guidance, and blames his parents for the way he is.

But I will not give up on him, I believethat some how some way he will wake up, God works in wonderful and unusual ways.  Let's hope so with this one.

It's never boring having 8 kids between the ages of 17 and 30, never ever boring!

Time to pack we are off for a mini vacation!

Have a wonderful weekend!!

10 comments:

Anonymous said...

Just pray for your son. Maybe God will turn him around. You seem like such a great mom.

Angela

Anonymous said...

You are a great mom. I hope that child gets his act together too. A life is a terrible thing to waste, but some just get around to doing good things a little slower than others.

xoxo

Anonymous said...

You are an amazing woman. I dont know how you do it. Your right though, I wish i knew in high School what  I know now. And didnt waste time worring about what people thought of me.
Have  a great trip.

Ellen

Anonymous said...

Wow!  I wanna go to Indy!  I've always wanted to take the girls to the Indy Children's Musium and the Indy Zoo!  Are you going to those places?  The only time I've ever been to Indy is when I saw the best pancreas specialist in the world.  Too bad he couldn't cure me!  ha ha!  I'm so sorry to hear about that step-son of yours!  Maybe the weekend in jail taught him a lesson?  Let me know, k?  I can image you never have any spare time with 8 kids!  Wow!  And I struggle with 3 teenage daughters!  Ha ha!  Well, have a great time on your mini-vacation!  I'm thinking about taking the girls somewhere for a couple nights, but I can't figure out where!  Oh well.  Let me know all about your trip when you return!  And be very careful!  Its a bear out there driving with other jerks on the road!
Love, Linda

Anonymous said...

Rose,

My oldest just turned 20 and we seem to share some of the same heartaches.  My guy has many, many talents with his hands.  He never was in favor of learning from books, just experience and by watching.  Luckily, it's worked well for him.  However, he too, came within 1 month of graduating HS and dropped out.  At least now he's trying to obtain his GED.  I give him a lot of credit.  I think he's learned he can't go to far in life without that diploma.  

I still worry about him.  He's been living with his Dad and his step-mom for about 18 months now, and I trust that they will continue to help guide him properly and with plenty of love.  

Have a great time on your trip with Mark.  Enjoy every moment of your alone time.  It doesn't happen often with 8 kids and 2 grandkids around.  

Love to you all,

Kathy

Anonymous said...

Rose,

Just keep praying!  That's what I did with my son who is 25 now.  I worried about him constantly..  he drank, he did drugs, he was just headed down a path that was going to lead him absolutely no where.  Of course he blamed it on me (which would be far too long to get into here), but, ultimately, we are in charge of our own destiny, when it comes to the here on earth.  In the last few months Craig has done a complete turn around.  He doesn't drink (but on occasion), and does not even dabble in drugs anymore.  I can tell, just by the way he is acting.  So differently.  I continued my prayers on his behalf, and God did intervene.  I don't know how... but he did.  I am ever so thankful!

I hope you and yours have a wonderful vacation!!

Be safe!

Jackie

Anonymous said...

Have a great weekend. Kids are a wonder and a pain. I guess the two go together. LOL.
Hugs, R.c.

Anonymous said...

Hope you have a nice vacation!

Sharon

Anonymous said...

Rose, you have more maturity and heart than 99% of the people i know...i hope your trip was a safe and happy one....i think in time your stepson will turn to you and DH and ask for help or maybe just grow up and grow out of this self destructive behavior.
LOVE, lisa

Anonymous said...

I am having trouble letting Mandy, who is 18, make mistakes on her own. I am over protective, I know.